Changing Pattern of Selecting Marriage Partner Arrange to Affair

Abstract

Partners were chosen mostly by the guardians even a few years ago, doesn‟t matter daughter or son. Choosing own partner by own  choice was thought kind of an insult to the oldest family members who are decision makers (Dion and Dion, 1993). But the scenario has  changed now, son and daughters are allowed to choose their partner now but not in the name of affair but in the name of “family  choice”. This is because of societal perception regarding affair and love. It is quite accepted now that children will choose someone as their future partner but not sure life partner/wife or not. But still that thinking of the society is prevailing about the „good  girl‟ or „good boy‟ concept, who listen everything told by their guardian without asking any question, doesn‟t matter if it is positive for  them or negative. Also choosing own partner is thought of as a „bad culture‟ which has come to our culture from „western  country‟ and „destructive‟ for us, „destructive‟ for our culture. Although, it is more related to power of decision making for both men  and women or expressing own choice of choosing own partner. Of course, there will be always some issues of working out of marriage  but still it is more related to own choice of choosing partner. There are theorists who think that affair is the outcome of the industrialization (Netting, 2006), also said that it is a continuous fight of the young people of the society who are searching for  freedom and individualism (Hansen and Pang, 2010). But among our society it is a way of empowerment and taking the authority of  decision making I found from my research. Moreover, it is not thought of as „western culture‟ but an addition to our own culture.